Items of Interest
The most caring parents can make mistakes in child rearing. These mistakes are not intentional and many times are hard to recognize. Here are a few presented by some child-developmental experts:
- Expecting your child to be like you: Children share their parents’ genes and homes. They have their own characteristics, dreams and temperaments. Frustrations develop when parents view their children as an extension of themselves. This limits the child’s ability to develop his own personality
- Sheltering kids from adversity: Parents want their kids to be happy and will often carry that desire to an extreme. Children will not learn to solve problems, handle hardship and negative emotions if every obstacle is smoothed over for them.
- Offering help before it’s needed: By rushing in to help a child before they are asked parents convey the message that the child cannot do anything for herself. Step back and allow children to struggle with dressing, homework, etc. Allow them to practice problem solving and take pride in their accomplishments.
- Talking about your kids in front of them: Parents love to talk about their kids’ accomplishments and their own frustrations. Even the smallest children can understand what you’re saying. Talking about your kids in front of them can hurt self-esteem.
- Scheduling play dates without consulting kids: Don’t run your children’s social life without consulting them.
- Rushing kids from one activity to the other: We rush kids to school, after school activities, lessons, museums and movies. This prevents kids from daydreaming, observing and working on projects that require creativity. Sometimes children don’t understand why they have to hurry.
- Intervening in sibling fights: If your kids are in danger, it is advisable to stop a fight. When safety is not an issue, it’s best to let your children have the opportunity to negotiate conflict and manage anger
- Naples Alliance for Children is Your Navigation & Guide as you seek the information and resources you need. Search the NAFC Resource Directory or Call 239-649-5260 for your free copy.
- Arrange to pick up the NAFC free Discipline Toolbox or other parenting information publications .
Bullying is is is usually defined as unwanted, aggressive behavior among school aged children that involves a real or perceived power imbalance. The behavior is repeated, or has the potential to be repeated, over time. Both kids who are bullied and who bully others may have serious, lasting problems. Childhood and Teen buullying includes actions such as making threats, spreading rumors, attacking someone physically or verbally, and excluding someone from a group on purpose.
Sadly, adults can be bullies, just as children and teenagers can be bullies. One would think that as people mature and progress through life, that they would stop behaviors of their youth. Unfortunately, this is not always the case. While adults are more likely to use verbal bullying as opposed to physical bullying, the fact of the matter is that adult bullying exists. The goal of an adult bully is to gain power over another person, and make himself or herself the dominant adult. They try to humiliate victims, and “show them who is boss.”
“Bullying Statistics” web site reports: There are several different types of adult bullies, and it helps to know how they operate
- Naples Alliance for Children is Your Navigation & Guide as you seek the information and resources you need. Search the NAFC Resource Directory or Call 239-649-5260.